4 Secrets That’ll Spice Up Your Sex Life!
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Sex is a healthy, fundamental component of all good relationships. It unites
men and women everywhere, both physically and emotionally and allows
both the guy and the girl to truly unleash and express their animalistic
AND sensual sides.
But no one’s sex life is perfect – things slow down, the
energy seems to disappear, it’s not as fun or exciting as either
of you would like, in short, it needs improving. So what can you do
to get back (or even create for the first time) that special spark that
makes great sex so…well, great?
Here are 4 top tips.
1. PLAY GAMES
The thing that often grinds sex lives to a halt and makes lovemaking
become so much of a hassle is the pressure and responsibility that surrounds
the whole subject. For the man, there’s the burden of having to
make the girl reach her own climax.
For the woman, there’s the strain of making sure her man is sexually
satisfied and not bored and liable to go looking elsewhere for sex or
questioning the stability and longevity of the relationship they’re
both in.
To counteract these negative pressures, try making having sex a less
traditional, scheduled, boring task. Instead, pick a couple of fun games
that you can play together that are fun and flirty and that can lead
casually and smoothly into the actual sex.
Twister, strip poker and spin-the-bottle are all great games that incorporate
physical contact and allow both you and your partner to have a little
no-hassle, no-responsibility fun that does or doesn’t have to
lead to a bout of impromptu lovemaking.
2. NEW LOCATIONS, NEW POSITIONS
People often have a very 2-dimensional outlook on the nature of sex
and how one should go about having it. The vast, vast majority of people,
for example, only have sex in the bedroom. And even they have a set
routine, lights dimmed or off, the same progression through the various
stages of sex: a little foreplay, intercourse in missionary and maybe
doggy if the guy’s lucky and the girls feeling up to it, then
it’s pretty much over.
Even if your personal situation has more life than that, sex in the
bedroom can still become a drag after a while. So, switch it up. Think
about different locations you can use: the living room, bathroom, kitchen…consider
all possibilities, even if they at first seem far-fetched and silly.
Also, think about locations away from the home once in a while. Motels
and cheap hotels offer a couple a fresh place to explore each other.
Secondly, improvise and experiment with the positions you use. Missionary,
girl on top, spoons, and doggy are all great, but always try to mix
in a few more unusual, adventurous ones to spice things up. Even if
you find yourself in a tangle with your partner, you’ve still
had fun and been spontaneous, which is a key component of any great
sex life.
3. COMMUNICATE FANTASIES
Something few men and women do is talk to their partners about what
turns them on, about things they’d like to try, scenarios they’d
love to act out, etc. etc. Make telling your partner about things that
turn you on a regular thing and, in return, you listen to their previously
private fantasies and day-dreams.
If doing it face-to-face is too embarrassing, consider sending saucy
messages via email or text message. You’ll find that after reading
about what really gets your partner going, you’ll be much more
excited and motivated to please them sexually, and they’ll feel
the same way back!
4. SPECIAL OCCASIONS
When you do the same thing many times, even if it started out feeling
new and exciting, it can get a little run-of-the-mill and boring. So,
to inject a real sense of passion and renewed excitement into your sex
life, make certain evenings special nights in (or out, then in!). Go
the whole way to making it feel almost like a celebration and do whatever’s
necessary to separate it from your usual lovemaking sessions.
Popular favourites include getting dressed up separately from your
partner, perhaps at a friend’s house, then meeting them in a restaurant
for a meal. Then, on returning home, you can indulge each other with
a slow and sensual massage or perhaps carry out one or more of the fantasies
you’ve been hinting to each other about.
From there, sex can begin – maybe on the floor of the living
room or even on the stairs – remember, impulsiveness and adventurousness
are a turn on, use them to kick-start your sex life!
W. Wilcox is the expert author of Orgasmology,
an online guide that coaches men on the special techniques that make
up the science of explosive sex and multiple orgasms.
