Not In Love With You
Did your spouse tell you, ‘I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you?’
What does that statement mean?
Hi. Im Mort Fertel, author of Marriage Fitness.
A person who says, ‘I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you,’ is making a distinction between 2 different feelings. But NEITHER of those feelings are love!
When a person says, ‘I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you,’ theyre saying that I CARE about you but Im not EXCITED about you.
CARING about someone is a good thing. Its reflective of CONCERN. But its different than love. I care about the starving children in Africa, but I dont love them.
Being EXCITED about someone is also a good thing. But its different than love. I might be excited to have a relationship with the President of the United States or a Hollywood star, but that doesnt mean I love them.