Relationship Tips

Did your spouse tell you, ‘I love you, but I’m not IN LOVE with you?’

What does that statement mean?

Hi. Im Mort Fertel, author of Marriage Fitness.

A person who says, ‘I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you,’ is making a distinction between 2 different feelings. But NEITHER of those feelings are love!

When a person says, ‘I love you, but Im not IN LOVE with you,’ theyre saying that I CARE about you but Im not EXCITED about you.

CARING about someone is a good thing. Its reflective of CONCERN. But its different than love. I care about the starving children in Africa, but I dont love them.

Being EXCITED about someone is also a good thing. But its different than love. I might be excited to have a relationship with the President of the United States or a Hollywood star, but that doesnt mean I love them.

Read: I Love You But Im Not ‘In Love’ With You

The closer you are to someone, the more likely you are to step on their toes. And being married to someone certainly puts you in close quarters. So the chances are good that you and your spouse have sore feet.

Okay, enough of the smelly metaphor. The point is that it’s NORMAL for you and your spouse to err and for those “misses” to cause hurt-¦sometimes serious hurt.

Did your spouse hurt you? Have you made mistakes that hurt your spouse?

Hi. Im Mort Fertel, author of Marriage Fitness.

Except in the case of physical abuse, you can “move on” from anything. In fact, your marriage can end up even BETTER!

I know-¦you’re probably thinking, ‘Better? How could it be better than before we screwed up?’

It CAN be better, but you have to do one thing first. You have to forgive.

What does it REALLY mean to forgive?

Read: How To Forgive And Be Forgiven

I came across this quote today and wanted to share it with you. You may find that it relates to your marital situation.

‘The difficultly with marriage is that we fall in love with a personality, but we must live with a character.’ - Peter Devries

Hi. My name is Mort Fertel, author of Marriage Fitness.

We can only appreciate the profundity of this statement if we understand what is meant by CHARACTER.

‘Personality’ is easy to understand. Your ‘personality’ is how people experience you. Its your public persona.

But what is ‘character?’ And why is ‘character’ so crucial in your marriage?

Character is who you are when no one is watching.

Read: How Could Everything Change So Dramatically

Are you hurting? Has your spouse neglected you? Rejected you? Emotionally abused you?

Are you struggling to get over the pain of an affair?

Hi. Im Mort Fertel, author of Marriage Fitness. If youre having marital trouble, the chances are good that you need to put some hurt behind you.

Its one of the most common questions I get. ‘Mort, I want to make my marriage work. But how do I get over the past?’

Heres the key.

The first step is to realize what youre REALLY trying to accomplish. What does it REALLY mean to get over the past?

Read: How Do You Get Over Your Past (And Past Your Marriage Problems)?

Are you trying to get heard? Do you feel ignored? Is your spouse not responding to your communication?

We live in an interesting time. With one click, you can communicate with anyone in the world. Its easy, quick, and free. You even have options. If you dont want to click, you could dial, beep, page, instant-message, or Fed Ex.

Its true. Your ability to communicate with the outside world has become increasingly easy. But my guess is that your ability to communicate with your spouse has become increasingly difficult.

The reason for this is that most people confuse INFORMATION communication with PERSONAL communication. Technological advancements give us all sorts of options to communicate information.

But how do you feel the pulse of someones soul? How do you communicate the subtleties in your heart? You cant text message that. You can have the latest and greatest in communication gadgets, but it wont matter.

PERSONAL communication is a whole different ball game. And its PERSONAL communication that determines the success or failure of your marriage.

Read: How To Get Your Spouse To Hear You

Stop waiting for love to find you. Bob Grant, “The Relationship Doctor”, gives you a Proven Step-by-Step Plan for Finding the Love of Your Life.

Would you rather wait for your dream man to fall into your lap by some stroke of luck — or would you rather take positive, constructive action to compel your dream man to arrive at your doorstep?

If you’d rather do it the old-fashioned way and wait for him to show up, then prepare yourself for a long wait.

But if you’d rather pursue your dream man the way you pursue any worthwhile goal in your life — that is, by following a step-by-step proven plan, then you simply cannot be without How to Find the Man of Your Dreams.

Read: How to Find the Man of Your Dreams

A Womans Guide To Transforming Your Love Life Practically Overnight!

Learn how to get more love, romance, and a deeper emotional connection with a man.

Have you ever wondered why some women seem to naturally attract great men, while your friends keep telling you the only men out there are losers?

The truth is that most women use words and body language that work wonderfully - for pushing men away.

There’s another way of talking and moving that makes men instinctively come toward you.

Its a way to see him and relationship free of all the drama and confusion. Its a way to stop doing whats pushing him away, and those things will surprise you.

You can be cherished and adored. And it can happen quickly.

All you need is new tools, a fresh perspective, and a willingness to try something none of your friends even know about. Men wont understand what youre doing, but theyll see the effect it has on every man around you.

In Have the Relationship You Want, youll find tool after tool - (that actually work!) - explained step-by-step. You’ll be able to use them right away to transform your love life practically overnight - whether you’re single, in a relationship, or married.

Read: Have the Relationship You Want

Attract and Keep Your Perfect Soulmate! Discover the Secrets That Have Kept Love Exciting for 1,000s of Years!

Are YOU Longing for Your Soulmate? If you already have a mate, do you want to improve your relationship by experiencing more kindness, more trust, more harmony? Do you finally want to get all the love that you desire and deserve? Not only is it possible but it is easier to create than you might imagine! Your ideal relationship with a Soulmate is closer than you think.

This ancient wisdom about love and lovemaking has helped hundreds of couples attract their beloved Soulmates time and again in past lives, AND KEEP their love going and growing ever more joyous and blissful. This ancient wisdom - assembled into proven processes based on 9 years of relationship counseling - has HELPED many of my clients to either ATTRACT a new love or to IMPROVE an existing relationship.

Now these SECRETS of SOULMATE LOVE can be yours -if you really want to get the love you deserve.

Know When and When Not To Call The Man You Are Dating

Before You Call Your Man, Read This Book! Have you ever hesitated before you dialed his number? Have you ever made a phone call to a man and later regretted it? What happens when you call - or don’t call - the man in your life can truly make or break your relationship?

Calling Men is not an etiquette book or a business manual - this is a book to get to the truth of how to handle this oh-so-important part of your relationship with your man.

Get free of the pain that comes with the confusion about when to call men - and when not to.

If you’re willling to practice the secrets instinctively known by women who do what works… and you want to know the details on what works and why… then this book is absolutely for you.

All About Calling Men: Know When and When Not To Call The Man You Are Dating

How To Get Your Guy Back Even When It Seems Hopeless.

When a man leaves a relationship, and the woman wonders where she went wrong, and tries desperately to get him back, that’s actually a common pattern.

It certainly causes a lot of distress in women — but the good news is that there’s an easy solution to this problem!

Bob Grant reveals to you his word-for-word script — 9 incredibly powerful words you can say to your man that will make him realize he simply couldn’t bear to lose you!

Adopt his game plan as soon as possible. Don’t wait until your man has moved on in his life without you and shut you out of his heart forever.

You must strike while the iron’s hot. When you follow my game plan exactly as prescribed, it is highly likely that he’ll come running back to you.

Read: How to Get Your Man Back and Keep Him Devoted to You For Good