Relationship Tips

One of the questions I’m most frequently asked is, ‘How do you know when it’s time to quit?’

Hi. Im Mort Fertel, author of Marriage Fitness, and in terms of when to give up on your marriage, here’s what I recommend.

If divorcing is a consideration for you from a moral perspective, then before you go that route, try first for at least one year.

Did you hear that?

Try for at least one year!

And I mean REALLY try. You can always call it quits. You always have that option. But once you pull that trigger, it’s over. No more chances. Your life will never be the same. Do you have kids? If you do, their life will never be the same.

If you end your marriage, you don’t want there to be a shred of doubt in your mind. You don’t ever want to look back and wonder if things could have been different. You don’t want to ask yourself, ‘What if this-¦and what if that-¦what if I tried this-¦what if I did that?’

If you have to end your marriage, you want to know DEEP IN YOUR HEART that you did everything you could to make it work.

Read: How Do You Know When To Call It Quits?

Are you trying to get heard? Do you feel ignored? Is your spouse not responding to your communication?

We live in an interesting time. With one click, you can communicate with anyone in the world. Its easy, quick, and free. You even have options. If you dont want to click, you could dial, beep, page, instant-message, or Fed Ex.

Its true. Your ability to communicate with the outside world has become increasingly easy. But my guess is that your ability to communicate with your spouse has become increasingly difficult.

The reason for this is that most people confuse INFORMATION communication with PERSONAL communication. Technological advancements give us all sorts of options to communicate information.

But how do you feel the pulse of someones soul? How do you communicate the subtleties in your heart? You cant text message that. You can have the latest and greatest in communication gadgets, but it wont matter.

PERSONAL communication is a whole different ball game. And its PERSONAL communication that determines the success or failure of your marriage.

Read: How To Get Your Spouse To Hear You

If you had to pick ONE THING that best predicts whether or not your marriage will succeed, what would you pick?

You might say ‘conflict.’ If you fight a lot, then thats not a good sign, right? WRONG.

Would you believe that its the opposite?! Thats right; research shows that the number one predictor of divorce is the habitual AVOIDANCE of conflict. In other words, a couple who does NOT fight is at the greatest risk for divorce.

A couple came to me for private phone sessions and I asked them what was going on in their relationship.

‘We never talk,’ Kathy said.

‘Why not,’ I asked.

‘Because we realized that thats when we fight,’ she responded.

Isnt it ironic? We try to avoid conflict with our spouse for the benefit of our relationship. But theres nothing MORE damaging to your marriage than NOT fighting.

Read the article: How To Know If Your Marriage Will Survive

Stop waiting for love to find you. Bob Grant, “The Relationship Doctor”, gives you a Proven Step-by-Step Plan for Finding the Love of Your Life.

Would you rather wait for your dream man to fall into your lap by some stroke of luck — or would you rather take positive, constructive action to compel your dream man to arrive at your doorstep?

If you’d rather do it the old-fashioned way and wait for him to show up, then prepare yourself for a long wait.

But if you’d rather pursue your dream man the way you pursue any worthwhile goal in your life — that is, by following a step-by-step proven plan, then you simply cannot be without How to Find the Man of Your Dreams.

Read: How to Find the Man of Your Dreams

A Womans Guide To Transforming Your Love Life Practically Overnight!

Learn how to get more love, romance, and a deeper emotional connection with a man.

Have you ever wondered why some women seem to naturally attract great men, while your friends keep telling you the only men out there are losers?

The truth is that most women use words and body language that work wonderfully - for pushing men away.

There’s another way of talking and moving that makes men instinctively come toward you.

Its a way to see him and relationship free of all the drama and confusion. Its a way to stop doing whats pushing him away, and those things will surprise you.

You can be cherished and adored. And it can happen quickly.

All you need is new tools, a fresh perspective, and a willingness to try something none of your friends even know about. Men wont understand what youre doing, but theyll see the effect it has on every man around you.

In Have the Relationship You Want, youll find tool after tool - (that actually work!) - explained step-by-step. You’ll be able to use them right away to transform your love life practically overnight - whether you’re single, in a relationship, or married.

Read: Have the Relationship You Want

Attract and Keep Your Perfect Soulmate! Discover the Secrets That Have Kept Love Exciting for 1,000s of Years!

Are YOU Longing for Your Soulmate? If you already have a mate, do you want to improve your relationship by experiencing more kindness, more trust, more harmony? Do you finally want to get all the love that you desire and deserve? Not only is it possible but it is easier to create than you might imagine! Your ideal relationship with a Soulmate is closer than you think.

This ancient wisdom about love and lovemaking has helped hundreds of couples attract their beloved Soulmates time and again in past lives, AND KEEP their love going and growing ever more joyous and blissful. This ancient wisdom - assembled into proven processes based on 9 years of relationship counseling - has HELPED many of my clients to either ATTRACT a new love or to IMPROVE an existing relationship.

Now these SECRETS of SOULMATE LOVE can be yours -if you really want to get the love you deserve.

Know When and When Not To Call The Man You Are Dating

Before You Call Your Man, Read This Book! Have you ever hesitated before you dialed his number? Have you ever made a phone call to a man and later regretted it? What happens when you call - or don’t call - the man in your life can truly make or break your relationship?

Calling Men is not an etiquette book or a business manual - this is a book to get to the truth of how to handle this oh-so-important part of your relationship with your man.

Get free of the pain that comes with the confusion about when to call men - and when not to.

If you’re willling to practice the secrets instinctively known by women who do what works… and you want to know the details on what works and why… then this book is absolutely for you.

All About Calling Men: Know When and When Not To Call The Man You Are Dating

How To Get Your Guy Back Even When It Seems Hopeless.

When a man leaves a relationship, and the woman wonders where she went wrong, and tries desperately to get him back, that’s actually a common pattern.

It certainly causes a lot of distress in women — but the good news is that there’s an easy solution to this problem!

Bob Grant reveals to you his word-for-word script — 9 incredibly powerful words you can say to your man that will make him realize he simply couldn’t bear to lose you!

Adopt his game plan as soon as possible. Don’t wait until your man has moved on in his life without you and shut you out of his heart forever.

You must strike while the iron’s hot. When you follow my game plan exactly as prescribed, it is highly likely that he’ll come running back to you.

Read: How to Get Your Man Back and Keep Him Devoted to You For Good

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasnt hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didnt have to DO anything. Thats why its called ‘falling’ in love-¦because its happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, ‘I was swept of my feet.’ Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. Its a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. Its the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouses idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

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How Do You Know If You Married The Right Person?

Traditional marriage counseling and most relationship books offer problem solving strategies and communication skills. But tackling marriage problems stress-out a relationship and make a bad marriage worse. And did you ever try to communicate when you’re angry? That doesn’t work either.

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